Repost: Birthday

My sister asked me what I wanted to do for my 50 birthday.

I haven’t answered yet. Because I don’t really know the answer.

I’d like to do… something… with friends and family, I suppose.

Here’s the thing: I have not been in a serious relationship in forever, so in those many years, nay, decades, I didn’t get a sense of what’s socially correct for such milestone birthdays. Hell, I spent my 41st birthday at WonderCon, which I really enjoyed.

I never went to other friends’ birthday celebrations because for the most part they were smaller family affairs. I didn’t have a significant other to plan or throw a party. I had my sisters organizing gatherings and dinners, mainly with family, which were fun, too.

So I’ve been stuck with the mindset of a non-adult in regards to a gathering for my 50th birthday. I want pizza. But I always want pizza. I want friends and family around.

Fully catered? Pot luck? Just how many people are we talking here?

I had a surprise party once, for my 16th birthday, and that seems to be the last time I had a birthday party.

I don’t know if I want a party. I think I do, because that’s what I pretty much described, with the friends and family and pizza thing.

Cake? Sure. I like German chocolate, but I know many who don’t like coconut. A cake in the shape of the Millennium Falcon? Or the Starship Enterprise? The TARDIS?

A themed party was mentioned, which I’d be fine with, because it may not be what an adult would want, but it’s what I would want.

An 80’s party? Everyone must come in costume/period clothing? Star Wars/Trek?

This isn’t a baby/wedding shower so I would not want to have any games like the ones you’d expect at such venues.

And because I’m semi-clueless, I don’t know what to do/have as entertainment, so people aren’t bored. I suppose there could be music, but I’m not much of a dancer, but I wouldn’t stop others from doing that.

As far as time, perhaps afternoon/early evening? You get older, you can’t stay out late, and many folks have kids who shouldn’t be up so late anyways.

Thus ends my stream of consciousness regarding this question.

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